Love Talk

I have a liking to talk about LOVE. I believe everything in life is all about love. From God creation to the relation of Man and Woman to Birth to work to hobby to ... The list just goes on. It is the intention of God that life move around Love. So don't you think we should know more about LOVE? So what exactly is LOVE?

In 1 John 4:8, it is written that "God is Love". He wants us to know him. In John 3:16, It is written "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life."

That is how much God's love is about.

In fact I have written a post on the topic love before (Oct 2008). Then why am I on this topic again? Just that on the other day, I happen to come across an article (TITLE: Hope Springs Eternal, BY: Tee Hun Ching, WHERE: The Straits Times Urban, DATED: 15 Jan 10)

In the article, the writer wrote a statment that said...

"Love is not a feeling but an action. It means doing the right thing by your spouse when the first flush of heady infatuation has ebbed, and working things out even when he is at his most unlovable.

It sounds like an ideal. Then again, achieving the near-impossible is what makes true love so precious."

Yes, that's the main purpose for me to post on this topic again. To share with all of you this powerful statement. Althought I've been married for more than 5 years, I dare not said I have a lot of experience. However I do strongly agree with that.

Love is like eating steamboat. It can be eaten during any part of the process and the best part is that the brewing process is forever.

In the beginning, dating is just an exploration, trying to get the soup base, getting to know about love, experiencing the "good" and "bad" taste by adding different type of spices for ingredient. You can still change partner in life just like throwing away the soup by changing the water in the steamboat. However things change once you are married.

Once a couple get married, they're still brewing the soup. Married, enjoying each other in evey expect of life together. Going marketing together, shopping together, travelling the world together, having baby and raising up the baby together....

The different is that there is now a commitment. There is a responsiblity. They get to enjoy the "goodness" of the food now. No longer can they just throw the soup away. Remember, you might not be able to get the same delicious soup again. So how? Put in more ingredient and make the soup turn better. By slowing down our pace of life and kindle some romance to each other. Love needs to be nurture and it will grows, not buy and forget. Remember Life is short but our days can be lengthen when we enjoy our life in the pool of love.

So by the time you getting full of the meal, it is normally the time, you realise that the soup is the most delicious. That's the time, the couple has grow old together. They know what true love is all about. They have gone thru every single moment together. Now that they are old, they realise that love is still so sweet.

Alright, I sound so "girl" when I speak of all that. Seriously that how I think what love is all about. Of course, I sound so idealistic and that is why I agree with what the writer wrote in the article.

"Love is not a feeling but an action. It means doing the right thing by your spouse..." Love might be a feeling when you get to know each other but the feeling last only the begining. You need action. Without action, it is only empty talk. Without adding more ingredient, the soup is just water. Feeling will fade but action keep love alive. As long as you keep adding the ingredient, the soup will only be more and more tasty.

I'm still learning. I still make my wife angry. Maybe I have added wrong ingredient, but I'm sure it will turn better when I put in the correct one again.
* PS : Darling, Do you agree with me? *

Suddenly I Realised ...

Suddenly I realised...
I don't have time to update my blog.
Manage to squeeze out some time tonight.
But I realise I don't know what to write.
I think not only have I lost my time, I have even lost my mind.
What is there to write?
I don't know, I really don't know what to write.
Just know that finally I got some time.
Now is time for me to write something from my mind.
So I just anyhow write.
Writing something from my mind.
Something that tell you I have nothing much to write.
It is a night that I have lost my mind.
A night that I really have nothing much to write.
But seriously I'm impressed of my mind.
Anyhow write also can write something out from my mind.
What is there in my mind?
Nothing I can sense in the night.
Just me and my empty mind.
Hopping you are able to read my mind.
If you can really read my mind, tell me what is in my mind.
I think it is time for me to say good night.
I better go and fill my mind.
In my sleep, God will fill my mind.
Fill my mind with his wisdom and give me his shalom night.
Thank You jesus for the night.
I know I have you with me tonight.
I'll see you in my mind.
It will not be the only night.
Good Night.

感触

莫名的悲伤，悲痛，悲愤，悲怆，悲泣，莫名的激动，莫名的感动，感激，兴奋, 快乐，人生就是充满了许许多多不同的感触，才会体会而懂得生命的意义。

可是有很多时候，就是因为这种莫名的感触，我们往往会不知觉的让情绪牵着走。

这就是所为的感情用事。人本身就是有血有肉，有情感的生物。以正常状况之下，在理智与情感之间，在一刹那间的决则或举动，很明显的，人多数会以情感来回应。

记得那天，可能是因为天气有点闷热的关系吧。心情明显有点烦躁。某人还在我身边，大声的拿我来开玩笑。明知道他也只是开开玩笑，平时的我自会一笑置知。可是那天，很明显的，我让我的情绪冲昏了理智，回应了一些不该说的话。

要知道，东西可以乱吃，话不可乱讲。不知道那一天就因为一时的冲动，得罪了人，那可就不得了。
(谨 守 口 与 舌 的 ， 就 保 守 自 己 免 受 灾 难 -- Proverbs 箴 言 21:23)

说真的，有时候我们应该试着控制一下我们的情感，以理智去对事。

想想看，如果有一名病人去找心理医生看病。在细听了病人的述说之后，心理医生也被病人感动到。以至医生在医治病人时不能很专业的对待病人，甚至达到不能好好的对症下药。那不就头大吗？

可是以另一个角度来对事，感情用事虽然不很理智，可是那何尝不是一种人性的象征？没了感情的话，人和机械有什么分别？禽兽都会有兽性，难道我们要做个比禽兽都不如的人?

如果以感性一点的角度来看, 对待每件事物, 人类都以最真诚的感情来面对，这何尝不是一种人性的美？

奇怪，突然觉得说着说着，我好像有点离题似的。不管了，离题就离题。不知道为什么最近似乎感触特别多。每一件发生在生活里的事情，都像似有着许多很特别的感觉。可能是Holiday Season 吧。Love is in the Air. :-P

哲言哲理 II

有时候评论是没有意义的，你有你的看法，我有我的见解，他有他的判断。。。这都是种很主观的论点。

哲言哲理 I

生命总是诉说著神秘的启示，当拼图的最后一片没拼上时，永远都不会知道最后完整的图案。
（取至一本书）

A SMS From My Wife...

Today I received a SMS from my wife telling me the board game she just played. She found it so fun and interesting.

Suddenly it just caught me out of nowhere. When is the last time I slow down my pace of life to enjoy a simple game with my loved ones?

Did life overrun me unknowingly? Maybe it's time I should learn to “pause” my life and take a good snapshot of myself. Forget about the world and get to know myself. A message about a simple board game but it means so much to me.

Ever since I step on the "big board game" of the world, sometime I just forget about the simple game I've been playing when I am young.

Maybe is life that make me too busy. Or is it I choose to ignore about the simple game and head on only the life game? Is life so important that I can't even stop for a while? Am I afraid to be a laughing stock by others? Or is it there isn't any loves one to play with me? All of them are too busy with life? They are all like me?

Get hold of my life. It is my life. Not others. Who cares about what you think? The ONLY person I care... Jesus. Praise God, I know how you think of me. It is good. Thank you, Jesus.

心灵点滴

是不是人的年龄越大，唠叨也越来越多？不知不觉布落格也成了我发唠叨的最佳之处。

可是这次并不会发唠叨。。。可能是累了吧！脑袋空空似的。讨厌这种感觉。真的讨厌。很讨厌。

Oh lord, lift me up again Lord. Fill my heart with your love again. I once was lost but now I'm found. Oh Jesus, time for me to drink from the living water again.

宝宝游泳

刚过的周末，我带了我四个多月大的儿子去参加了一项宝宝游泳比赛。老实说，在新加坡并不常见这类似的比赛。试想想，参赛的宝宝有些只有一两个月大，有多少的父母会带他们多数时间还再熟睡的宝宝去学游泳呢？更别说是去比赛游泳。

不过话说回来，让小宝宝去游泳并不是一件很特别的举动。宝宝们本来一出世就会游泳。为什么我会那么说呢？别忘了宝宝在毋亲怀孕期时就是一直生活在水里。严格来说，生命的起源就是从水中开始。宝宝自有了生命，就在娘胎游了十个月的泳。有些产妇甚至选择了在水中分娩，就是不想让宝宝一出世就被那突如其来的转变而惊吓到。所以说宝宝本来就是一名游泳建将也不为过。

可是什么原因让那么多的宝宝失去了那有生具来的本能呢？

想想看，宝宝一出世之后，有多少机会，多少时间会接触到水？从想到看到触摸到说到跑，宝宝每一天都在学习中。跟据医学研究指出，那小小的脑袋一方面在成长，成型中（要到两岁过后才完全成型），一方面还得学习新的事物。试想一下，如果我们不尽早让宝宝接触游泳，小脑袋不就会把宝宝原有的泳术给忘了吗？

好了，可能是因为刚身为人父的关系吧，感触特别深。竟然不知不觉说那么多。如果我说让宝宝游泳还有许多益处的话，我想信会有更多的父母亲会开始让他们的宝宝早点接触游泳。不过不说了，要了解更多，自己上网＂goggle＂吧。

哦对了，请别因为看了我这篇＂唠叨＂就随随便便赶紧带您刚出世的宝宝，去大众似的泳池游泳。因为细菌的传播，水的＂硬＂度，深度和温度的关系，大众似的泳池是不适合宝宝的。当然我所说的泳池是个室内，有人监督宝宝，水深，水温都被控制的泳池。

到那里找？

有的。己经有人把这项宝宝游泳活动引进本国。我就是在那里让我宝宝游泳的。

唯一的感叹就是价格不便宜。不过要知道这世上多数的父母亲都有相同的愿望。。。＂望子成龙，望女成凤＂。任何对孩子有益或是能博宝宝一笑，我想信在我们能力范围之内，我们都会给于我们的孩子。

父母亲们，你们说对吗？

对了忘了说，我儿子已经成功进入来临周末的大决赛。儿子加油哦。

胜负是次要，开心最重要。爸爸永远支持你。

笑

微笑 ：
很高难度？很难吗？何苦扳着脸，是否全世界得罪了你？苦瓜脸，臭臭的脸只会让人怕了你，远离你。不如尝试微笑吧。

开怀大笑，哈哈大笑：
你记得你最后一次开怀大笑是多久以前的事吗？

苦笑 :
不管发生多苦恼的事，笑一下，虽然是苦苦的一笑，事情终究会解决的。

傻笑 ：
当你面对一群针对你的问题时， 最易解决的方法，往往就是傻傻的笑，表现出一种不把事情放在心里的表情。

。。。


笑像是拥有一种很特别的力量，很多时候它能够一瞬间影响周边的每一个人。往往人生美好的事情都是先由此而来。在说不管是我们的人性还是生活方式都是离不开群体的。

关键就是＂多笑＂。

笑，一种很轻易的就把人与人之间的距离拉近。所以当我们面对我们日长生活里的每一件事时，就让我们保持着笑容面对每一天吧！

记得曾经有一位名人就说了一句非常出名的名言。。。

＂老了，笑了，少了，笑了，又少了！＂

什么嘛？又老又笑又少？是哪位世外高人在哪座高山说了这么幺的一句话？

不幺不幺，别心急, 他的意识是说。。。

＂感觉老了，只要笑一笑，烦恼会变少，再试着笑一笑，少年时光又来到。＂

是不是很有意识？
对了，忘了告诉你。。。

那位高人就是 = 我。
高山嘛 = 不高，就在我床上。

哈哈哈！
你笑了吗？

什么？还是不想笑？脸臭有生俱来？就是笑不出？

算了，只好拚了。。。
来人啊。。。把他托出去，弄＂笑＂了（福建话)

Enjoy life

Today Friday 13th Nov 2009... Happened to glance at the Joyce Meyer daily God's word for today when I was carrying Gavriel (my 4 month old boy).

Somehow, I think I was led by God to turn to today devotion. Interesting, the topic of the day was "Enjoy life". This was what she wrote:

" Enjoyment of life is not based on enjoyable circumstances. It is an attitude of the heart, a decision to enjoy everything because everything - even little, seemingly insignificant things - has a part in the overall "big picture" of life.

Rejoice in the lord alway: and again I say, rejoice. - Philippians 4:4 "

Mm... Think I'm doing the right thing today. I'm on Leave today. So is my wife... Er... Sort of, half day leave is still Leave right? Ok, I shall enjoy today, Nope, is everyday but today I decided to enjoy in every single things that happen today...

Alright, I planned to bring my boy to my wife office to fetch her from work. Sweet right? Well, my wife did highlighted to me that maybe I can bring Gavriel over... :-p

So everything was planned accordingly to my timing. Just as I was about to go out, I realized that my boy needed to drink more milk. By the time I finished feeding him, oh no... Timing a bit out.

When I reached the bus stop, the bus ran away before I could even stop it. However thing was not really that bad. I received an SMS from my wife to tell me to take it slowly. She could wait. Praise god for such a wonderful wife. :-)

Managed to squeeze into the MRT... My goodness, you mean man carrying a baby got no privilege? No one cares to give up their seat to me. :-p Never mind, I enjoyed standing too :-(

Reached the destination station, realized that it was raining very heavily. Ok, no more going to my wife's office. Reason being I needed to dash at least 400m under the rain if I were to carry on with my plan. So I called and waited patiently for my wife to finish her work at the station. Never did I expected, my son suddenly throw out milk all over my body. As I was carrying him on the baby carrier, both of us were thoroughly wet with the "digested" milk.

Great, I managed to take a cab, rushed to my wife's office and get my wife to change my boy while I get myself clean up. As the "damage" was quite "smelly", we decided to cancel our "meal out and shopping time" by going back home for a change.

When we reached downstairs of our flat, we realized that the lift is under maintenance. Excellent because finally we got to find time to do some exercise by climbing up the stairs, carrying all the "Barang Barang" and my boy up to the 15 floor of our house
Suddenly while my boy was sleeping soundly between me and my wife, I realised that life is still not too bad after all.

Finished cleaning up and taken our meal, rain was still pouring heavily.

I realized that all the things did not go according to my plan at all. Enjoying life... How to do that?


Remember what did God tell me today?

" Enjoyment of life is not based on enjoyable circumstances. "

Indeed my circumstances seem bad to enjoy....

" even little, seemingly insignificant things - has a part in the overall "big picture" of life. "

Looking back, however it is a great experience for me. Alone, just me bringing my boy taking bus and train. Realised that people tend to give up seats to lady with baby than man with baby :-p Getting both wet with "digested" milk on both father and son in MRT station. Climbing up stairs with my wife and my son. Spending time with my wife and son at home playing...

Hey, it is not that bad after all. We enjoyed our ride, both of us are still cool when we are both wet, we still joke when we are climbing up the stairs and we get to play and laugh with our boy today. If nothing of the "unplanned" happened, I don't think we as a family could do so many "different" things today. Life would still be the same as another OFF day as we always do.

Most importantly, God is still with me today. The moment I need a cab, it is there for me. (So Blessed by God) Even my wife comment that she realised that whenever I buy the "Char Siew" rice, the stall owner tend to give me more "Char Siew". (So Favored by God) while we are climbing up the stairs, we met the lift maintenance guy who said 'sorry' to us for making us climbing up the stairs. Is his job to do the maintenance, there isn't a need for him to be sorry about, but I received it. (So Loved by God)

Mmm... So if you asked me about Today, I think I still enjoy today.

Btw, did I tell you today were my 5th wedding anniversary?

Blessed anniversary darling, I love you. :-)

对或错

最近常听到朋友之间喜欢改正彼此之间的言行举止。往往这类似的"言论"，最终总是让人不欢而散。

说实话，有谁真正能够很肯定的对任何事件说出准确性的对或错？

就说吃吧。你可能对我今天吃的午餐有意见。油腻腻的猪脚。吃了胆固醇肯定急速升高。肯定对身体有害。可是以表面来看事物并不一定是对。我可能因为莫种原因，比如说是因为得了莫种＂特别＂的病毒所以得多吃一些高胆固醇的食品。

原则上来说，早出发，就会早到终点。所以今天你选择早点离家去公司。本以为一定可以早到。那知道中途却遇上车祸。可能迟点离开的话，你就不会遇到车祸了。

让我再举个例子。如果在一辆拥挤的公车上， 你看到一位年青人坐着，毫不在乎眼前站着的老奶奶。你会怎什想呢？你会认为年青人是因为脚受伤而没让位给老奶奶吗？或者说你会认为是老奶奶拒绝了年青人的让位呢？


一位喜欢开玩笑，言行比常人另类，举姿比人夸张，就是疯子吗？

言行举止比较女性化，就是变性人？

想想看，此比欲好象可以一直说下去也不会有什么结论。正所谓，世界那么大，事事无绝对。往往人们只看表面就自以为是的下判断，对人对事只有百害而无益处。我看我们还是多聆听，少开口，世界可能就天下太平了。你说对吗？

说完了。回想一下，以上的见解也是以我个人对此事所做的一种＂判断＂。。。对或错。。。谁能够下定论呢？

迷失了 ！

我猜迷失了。
我自以为我走了很久，看了很多，我找到了。
我发现，迷失了。
我找不到我原来的起点。

我试图走着。
我走了很久很久，看了更多，我找到了？
我知道，我错了。
我哭因为我迷失又累了。

我又开始走了。
我走了更远更久，看了更多更多，我终于找到了？
我看到，我笑了。
我感觉到我又看不到了。

我又开始哭了。
我真的不想走了，看也不想看了，我真的累了。
我发现，我哭了。
我再一次又一次迷失了。

你让我看到你伸出的手。
你使我也伸出了我的手。
你让我发现我很久没为自己真的笑了。
你使我发自内心的笑了。

你的爱让我找到了我自己。

我不再迷失了。

Forgetful

This is the second time within a week that I forgotten to take my phone out with me. The first time happen on last Wednesday during my in-camp training and on Monday, it is the second time.

Something I really question myself... Am I getting old? Is my age catching up with me? Many of my peers are already married with children. No longer are we still schooling or in the army. Am I really getting old that my memory is failing me?

On the other hand, am I too stress? I remember many a time, I cried out a rhetorical question, "I think I'm stress". A natural reaction from friend is that they tend to question me back, "You also will get stress meh? You always so "smiling" face, stress still can talk so much rubbish?" (come on, i don expect you to answer me back anyway)

So am I really so stress-free?

Btw who said stress must react and look like stress? Anyway what is the correct "face looks" to look stress?

I question myself again...

Last week in camp training... Train only 2 times and I go for my IPPT... (worry ok!) Peers are going MR (MINDEF Reserved) and I'm still needed to serve another 1 high and 2 low key with a new unit. (Low morale rite?)

After 1 long week in camp and now going back office, stack of works waiting for me, ahah!

Then there are those "demand" and decision to be make in... Those desire of... Problems that... The coming issues that I will be facing... (Okay, all the above are private and confidential.)

Think about it again, am I really that worries free?

Someone did mention to me that it is the habitual ways for an IT guy. He only react and fire fight when things happen. My wife too commented on me that I love to sweep problems (issues that I hate to face) under the carpet and only settle it when the problems surface.

Well, I don't deny it. Maybe that the reason why me and my wife are married to each other. She's systematic and I'm not. That's how we complement each other. ;-p

Recently, I think my mind is always so busy. I realize that there are many times during bath, I think I've fill myself with the shower foam twice. Reason is that half way thru the bath, I even forgot whether I have used the shower foam. My mind is far away thinking of other things. I just don understand too, what am I thinking during my bath. Problems again?

Am I having too much things to settle? Have I reach my limit? Or am I too tired? Maybe I just need a break. Really a break from ALL.

And ALL = Work, Life and Friends !

I heard this many times, that everyone has their own problems in life. Is just a matter whether it is big or small. I don really agree. Is true that everyone got their own problems. However there's isn't a different between big or small. It just how a person able to contain the problem.

You might be having a BIG problem that you owe the bank a hundred thousand $. However to a billionaire, it is such a small amount. It immediately becomes a SMALL problem. In fact it might not even be a problem to him.

Ah... What am I talking about now? Aren't I on the topic of FORGETFUL? But now I'm talking about PROBLEM. I think I really mixed up now. I cannot think anymore... Ahahah... Am I in the mid-life cruise instead?

Is Forget = Sickness ???

----- oo000oo -----

Ps: I'm sorry that you have to listen to me telling a lot of crap today. Everythings written might not even be in-syn with each other. Sigh... Think I'm really tired.

人累了 !!

人为何会累 ?

人类 = 人累 ???

我累了 ！

我累了。

我真的累了！

就让我歇一歇吧！

因为我是真的真的真的累了！

What is LOVE ???

Any idea what is Love? I don't think Love is something that can by explained easily by words or even just by felt. It should be experienced.

So what is LOVE?

Many years back, I made a photo-journal to my wife to express my love for her... in it, I have include some explanation about Love. As I was looking at it, I think it is quite interesting and worth to share it...

Below is an extract from the photo-journal....

BY KIDS :

1. Love is when mommy sees daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is the most handsome man in the world.

2. Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, and then he wears it everyday.

3. Love is when you go out to eat, give somebody most of your French Fries without making them give you any of theirs.

... etc Interesting meaning by Kids?

Then as we grow older, we thought we have a better understanding about Love...


BY MAN :

Love is the quiet and understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you - to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by their presence, even when they are away. Miles do not separate you. You have so many wonderful little films in your head that you keep replying. But near or far, you know they are yours and you can wait.

Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. They feel your trust, and it makes them even more trustworthy.

Love makes you feel whole. It completes the circle. It fills the empty space in your heart. Love is elevating. It lifts you up. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes you a better person than you were before. If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you don't have. If there is no love in your life, whatever else there is has a lot less meaning.


BY GOD :

Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily. It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God's love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong]. It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail. Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening]. Love never fails [never fades out or becomes obsolete or comes to an end].

- 1 Corinthians 13:4 -

(Think this is really the true Love of all - Agape Love)


BY THADDEUS :

Love is happy when you smile. Love is sad when you cry. Love is making you happy when you moody. Love is being able to kiss and hug you. Love is being able to "sai yang" you when you sad. Love is being able to give what you desire. Love is being able to take what you give. Love is to wear similar type of attire to attend function with you. Love is being about sharing in regardless of how much we have. Love is being able to hold your hand when we are together. Love is being able to trust each other in all circumstances. Love is being able to worship our GOD together. Love is all about being with you.


Okay, I know someone out there might be laughing at my explanation... nevertheless, to me Love is simple but at times it is really tough to achieve. It is just like the Agape Love GOD is talking about. How many of us can achieve that? We are always move by our thoughts, people's talking, feeling, emotion...


Recently I search thru the net again and got some Love Quotation by others which I think it is quite good...


"Attention is the most basic form of love; through it we bless and are blessed." - John Tarrant

(truly it is a Blessing to Bless than to be Blessed)

"Love is like quicksilver in the hand. Leave the fingers open and it stays. Clutch it, and it darts away." - Dorothy Parker
(Well, I think there is a certain measurement to it... it depend on the context of the topic but I do agreed to it.)

"Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness." - Oliver Wendell Holmes
(Agreed... without Love, why are we here in this place?)

"Love stretches your heart and makes you big inside." - Margaret Walker
"Where love is, no room is too small." - Talmud
(Amen. God is Good, All the time !!!)

Ok... this one is the real interesting one... deep... or...

"To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're getting this down." - Woody Allen

Lastly, by me again...

To be able to Love is what GOD makes us to be. But to Love or not to Love is really depends on how much you know Love is. - Thaddeus

Woman • Happy • Man ?

Ever wonder what makes a woman happy?

A search from the Web...

I saw an article by Geraldine Bedell that says,"If you actually ask women what makes them happy, they're quite likely to say 'sex', or 'eating' or a 'cold bottle of sauvignon blanc' because sensual pleasures are still as available as they ever were."

Whatever it is, I do know of a few "short-term" happiness for woman...

1. Shopping with her for BAGS/CLOTHS/SHOES/ACCESSORIES (BEST if you are the 1 paying)
2. Eating ICE-CREAMS together with the one she love
3. Receiving gift of appreciation from her love one
4. Receiving compliments from her beloved telling her that she is beautiful
5. Being a good listener to her and remember don't comment even if you think she's wrong
6. A good "physical intimate" time together with her beloved (Okay, Adult talking... Children go to other Blog)
7. Last but not least... Going Oversea Tour together with her man... IMPORTANT... Don't Forget... Tour needs to include SHOPPING TIME

Of course woman is not as simple as that...

Nevetheless, if you are able to meet the above 7 points...

I think you have already won 70% of her heart.

Woman do you agree with me?

So ever wonder what makes a man happy too?

A search from the Web... I saw some comments...

1. A woman showing up naked

2. A woman bring him food and drinks
3. Handling over the remote to the man and let him be in control

Mmmm... agree?

想一想 2

(Please see 想一想 1, before you read this)

ok... suddenly got another thought... What happen if this time round, the guy is a very famous, rich and powerful man... Maybe a minister. (It is not easy for U to meet him in normal days)... Btw he's ur idol. Maybe at a certain point of life, U know that he might be a great help for U next time in ur business....

Does it makes any different now?

Maybe initally ur value is $50. However due to the fact that it is difficult to meet him up, U might change ur value to maybe $500? or even $5000? or even more...

Does status of a person makes ur value change too?

Don't forget that U might need his help in ur business next time... for $50 or $500, will U worry that he might think U are not capable for handling big "project"? or maybe, he might think that U are a good partner to be with, coz he will not worry that U will be "throwing $$$" away...

Mmmmm.... 想一想 ok?

想一想 1

If 1 day, U attend an activity that needs U to stay together with a new friend for a nite in a hotel room. U are being assign as the room IC.

Supposing on the check out day, the friend has to go off first. When U check out, U were shown of a telephone bill of $0.50. Will U inform or claim back from ur friend? As a friendly and generous guy, does it sound too "little" to at least inform ur friend?

So how about ur friend talking a bit longer and now the bill is $5. Will U inform ur friend?

If No is your answer... What if ur friend actually call oversea the night before and the bill turn out to be $50? Will ur answer still remain?

If your answer still remain, I think you are generous...

How about $500? How about $5000? How about $50,000? (don ask me how can a person manage to clock such a high telephone bill in a nite.. just assume, can? Of course, in this example, I also assume U can afford to pay no matter how much it cost.)

So what ur answer now? If ur answer still remain... I think U are really really very generous.
Praise GOD for U.

If not, what is the value U will say YES?

If U say YES, does it means that everyone or almost everyone, has a value for everything?

If U tell me U will go inform your friend right from the beginning no matter what amount it is, ( I mean "INFORM", coz it might be ur principle. It might not means U wants ur friend to return that $0.50.) then I guess, I will never have this thought, right?

Remember, it is always a blessing to bless :-)